1 Corinthians Chapter 7: Divorce Marriage Celibacy Equality



   1: Now concerning the things you wrote to me about[1] It is good for a man not to  touch[2] a woman  [remain celibate] 2: But because of porneia let each have his wife[3] and let each have her husband[4] 3: Let husbands yield as indebted [to] wives good will [5] and likewise also wives to husbands 4: Wives have not exousiazo idios soma [authority over her own body] indeed the husband and likewise also the husband has not exousiazo idios soma [6] [authority over his own body] indeed the wife[7] 5: Withdraw ye not one from the other except [perhaps] it be with consent for a time so that scholazo  [you can resort to][8] fasting and prayer and [then] come together again[9] that Satan tempt you not for your lack of self-control 6: But I speak this by permission and not of commandment[10] 7: For I would that all people were even as I myself But everyone has their own gift from God[11] one indeed after this manner and another after that 8: I say therefore to the unmarried and widows It is good for them if they abide even as I[12] 9: But if they will not contain [themselves][13] let them marry for it is better to marry than to burn [with unbridled passions][14] 10: And to the married I command yet not I but the Lord Let not the wife depart from her husband 11: But and if she depart let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband and let not the husband put away his wife [15]12: And to the rest speak I not the Lord If any brother has a wife that believes not and she be pleased to dwell with him let him not put her away 13: And the woman who has a husband that believes not and if he be pleased to dwell with her let her not leave him 14: For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband[16] else were your children unclean but now are they holy 15: But if the unbelieving depart let them depart A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases but God has called us to peace[17] 16: For how do you know O wife whether you shall save your husband or how do you know O husband whether you shall save your wife[18] 17: But as God has distributed to every one as the Lord has called every one so let them walk And so ordain I in all churches 18: Is any one called being circumcised let them not become uncircumcised [19] Is any called in uncircumcision let them not be circumcised[20] 19: Circumcision is nothing and uncircumcision is nothing but the keeping of the commandments of God [is what counts] 20: Let everyone abide in the same calling wherein they were called 21: Are you called being a slave Care not for it but if you may be made free use it rather 22: For they who are called in the Lord being slaves are the Lord’s freedmen Likewise also they who are called being free are Christ’s [slaves] 23: You are bought with a price be not ye the slaves of men 24: Brethren let everyone wherein they are called therein abide with God[21] 25: Now concerning virgins I have no commandment from the Lord[22] yet I give my judgment as one who has obtained mercy from the Lord to be faithful 26: I suppose therefore that this is good for the present distress[23] I say that it is good for one so to be 27: Are you bound to a wife seek not to be loosed Are you loosed from a wife seek not a wife 28: But and if you marry you have not sinned and if a virgin marry she has not sinned Nevertheless such shall have trouble in the flesh but I spare you[24] 29: But this I say brethren[25] the time is short It remains that both they who have wives be as though they had none[26] 30: And they who weep as though they wept not and they that rejoice as though they rejoiced not and they that buy as though they possessed not 31: And they that use this world but not abusing it for the fashion of this world passes away[27] 32: But I wish you to be without worry He who is unmarried cares for the things that belong to the Lord how he may please the Lord 33: But he who is married cares for the things that are of the world striving to please his wife 34: There is difference also between a wife and a virgin The unmarried woman cares for the things of the Lord that she may be holy both in body and in spirit but she who is married cares for the things of the world how she may please her husband[28] 35: And this I speak for your own profit not that I may cast a noose upon you but for that which is seemly and that you may attend upon the Lord without distraction 36: But if any be accustomed to acting unseemly toward their virginity if they be over-ripe and so it ought to be [then] do what they desire They sin not let them marry 37: Nevertheless whoever stands steadfast in their hearts having no necessity but having control over their own desires and have so decreed in their hearts that they will guard their virginity do well 38: So then they that give [themselves] in marriage do well but they that give [themselves] not in marriage do better 39: A wife is bound by the law as long as her husband lives but if her husband be dead she is at liberty to be married to whom she will only in the Lord 40: But she is happier if she so abide after my judgment if she remains unmarried  and I think also that I have the Spirit of God


[1] This is a reference to a letter or letters written to Paul, from the Christians in Corinth. We have no way of knowing the exact contents of the letter(s), but from Paul’s answer, we can infer that the question[s] had to do with several issues. One was whether it was better for Christians to marry or to remain unmarried. And Paul begins his response with that concern. Even though the context of Paul’s answer seems to address sexual relations within marriage, it is doubtful a letter focusing solely on intimate relations between spouses would have been dispatched to the apostle, but rather questions concerning the advisability of marriage itself. It makes much more sense to interpret Paul’s answer in light of relationships and co-habitation between spouses, i.e., marriage itself, rather than focusing solely on the conjugal aspects of marriage, which translators have consistently chosen to do with this passage. Other issues addressed in this chapter are divorce, Judaism, and slavery.

[2] It is certain that celibacy in general is not being promoted by the apostle (the entire passage deals with the special circumstance of the “present distress”—the terrible persecution Christians were experiencing at the time), the fact that Paul advises believers to remain unhampered by marriage during this time is significant. The word “touch” in this verse could also be translated “cling or adhere to.” Although men are told that finding a [godly] wife is a good thing, scripture holds no such advice for women concerning husbands. Without dispute, for both women and men, a happy marriage is a blessing from God. But nowhere in scripture, are believers commanded to seek out a spouse. The traditional-role-religionist and complementarian focus on getting married is at odds with scripture on this subject. Complementarianism appears to have such an obsession with marriage, it could legitimately be called a marriage cult. Conversely, the Jews believed that if they reproduced themselves (had two children), they had been obedient to the command to “Be fruitful and multiply.” Although daughters tended to be married off at young ages, sons typically waited until they were older. We observe [that in the ancient culture] the pressure to marry was often limited to marrying off daughters, while men were simply advised that they did good if they chose to marry. The Old Testament example of Rachel and Leah illustrates the cultural pressure to find husbands for daughters. Rachel was beautiful and therefore highly marriageable (and she already had a suiter), while her sister Leah was not. Laban, desperate not to have an “old maid” on his hands pulled the wool over Jacob’s eyes and tricked him into marrying the older, not so beautiful, sister first.

[3] Strong’s reference G 1135, gune, refers to women whether married or unmarried. There is no evidence for commentator James Strong’s unfounded assertion that the word, gune, refers “specially” to wives. Context alone determines how gune should be translated. In the first two verses of 1 Corinthians 7, the word gune, is seen referring to both wives and then to women in general, whether married or unmarried.

[4] Polygamy was common among the Jews, and since the first Christians were Jews, polygamy was also common among early Christians. Verses one and two are a clear reference the number of wives a Christian husband should have. The husband should have his wife (singular), and the wife should have her husband (singular)—total equality of the sexes is seen in this passage as well—equality in both essence and function. These verses leave no room for interpretation and clearly refer to monogamy. It is the second such reference, in the New Testament, of husbands only having one wife. The first came from Jesus. Paul also wrote about it to Timotheos. A husband cannot cling to (adhere to) “a” wife while, at the same time, having multiple wives. Although it appears polygamy became the norm early on (including among God’s people), the first chapter of Genesis, the Mosaic Law, the words of Jesus, and Paul’s instruction to Timothy, all clearly reveal that God’s plan, from the beginning, was that marriage is for one man and one woman—only. One wife at a time is permitted. There can be no essential or functional differences, either implied or inferred, when we read the exact same command given to both women and men—they were each to have only one spouse.

[5] What is due benevolence (opheilema eunoia)? The word, opheilema means to be under obligation to or indebted to. And eunoia, which is only used twice in the New Testament and is translated as “benevolence” in 1 Corinthians 7:3 and as “good will” in Ephesians 6:7. There is no biblical ground for assigning a sexual/conjugal connotation to the word eunoia. Thayer defines the word as simply kindness and good will. Benevolence has never been a euphemism for what James Strong referred to as “conjugal duty.” Just because the apostle goes on to advise marriage for those who are excessively tempted by porneia, does not mean he further emphasizes “conjugal duty” to married couples. The marriage bed is not only holy, it is also personal and private. There is no biblical ground for supposing Paul thought it his business to meddle in the very personal issue of how often a married couple should or should not engage in intimate relations with one another (indeed it is not even physically possible, due to health reasons for some married couples to do so). “Due benevolence,” must therefore refer to the special kindness, consideration, loyalty, and faithfulness that should exist in every marriage. Beyond that, there does not exist one set of rules for married Christians and a different set of rules for unmarried Christians. Spouses are bound, even indebted to one another (along with all Christians), to exercise kindness and good will one towards the other. That, and only that, can be interpreted to be what the apostle meant by the words “due benevolence.”?

[6] The context of verse four, seems to speak [at least in part] to the giving or withholding of sexual relations, but that does not shore up theology which teaches that the term “due benevolence” should be interpreted as “conjugal duty.”

[7] How does this clear statement of functional equality (mutual submission) between husbands and wives reconcile with Bruce Ware’s doctrine of trinity marriage (where marriage allegedly mirrors the alleged eternal, pre-incarnate, authority structure within the Godhead as a pattern for human hierarchy in marriage?) and the complementarian doctrine of the husband “playing the role” of Jesus and the wife “playing the role” of the church? Where are scriptural examples of how the church has power over Christ? How does this compare with traditional-role-religion interpretations of Ephesians Chapter five? 

[8] Paul gives his approval for husbands and wives to absent themselves from one another, at their mutually consented leisure, for the purposes of fasting and prayer, but not for living apart in general. The Greek word translated “give yourselves to” is, scholazō, which is only used twice in the New Testament. In Matthew 12:44, the word is translated “empty.” Other, extra-biblical, usages indicate the word denotes “absence and/or leisure.” 

[9] Male commentators have consistently assigned a meaning of “conjugal co-habitation” to the Greek word, sunerchomai, which is translated in this verse as “come” (as in come together/gather together). But there is no definitive biblical evidence that the coming together Paul refers to, in verse five, is conjugal—for married people it could certainly include it. The word is used in such a context in only two places in the New Testament, 1 Corinthians 7:5 and in Matthew 1:18 where we read that Mary is found with child of the Holy Ghost before she and Joseph “came together” (i.e., before they began living together as husband and wife; there is no definitive hermeneutical proof that sunerchomai is referring to Mary and Joseph’s future conjugal relationship (Roman Catholics certainly deny that is the case). In all other places, sunerchomai, refers to non-conjugal groups of people coming (or gathering) together.

[10] In other words, Paul felt liberty from God to share his opinion on the subject. So virtually everything written in 1 Corinthians chapter seven [aside from verses 10-11 which he clarified in verses 12-16] Paul states is his opinion, and not to be taken as “Thus saith the Lord.”

[11] Paul is not referring to a supernatural gift of self-control, as all Christians are commanded to exercise self-control. The fact that it is a command, means that, with the help of God, all are capable of it. Therefore, the ability for a single person to abstain from porneia is not a gift. It is simply the exercise of self-control which we are all commanded to do. The gift Paul writes of, is the ability to be content without being married.  

[12] The apostle is issuing a general advisory for Christians not to marry during the “present distress.” This is not a slur against the marriage relationship or a defense for celibacy. It was simply common sense considering the horrific persecution taking place at the time.

[13] Will not contain is more accurate according to context and comparison with other passages. . .There are no Christians who cannot restrain themselves from sinning. If that were the case then lack of self-control would not be sin. But that is not the case, self-control is something Christians are commanded to add to their faith, and is also a fruit of the Holy Spirit (fruit results from growth and maturity). Using the words “cannot” instead of “will not”, as many versions do, soft-soaps the issue of self-control or the lack thereof.

[14] Rather than be consumed with burning, sinful lusts, get married (and remain faithful to your spouse!)

[15] This goes back to verse one, and one of the questions Paul obviously wrote this letter in response to:  It is good that a man not touch a woman? What a ridiculous rendering! Put the shoe on the other foot: It is good that a woman not touch a man! No, it is not “good” either way if it is unmarried men and women we are speaking of “touching” one another here; it is sin, pure and simple, if they do! Could Paul have been answering a question concerning bringing children into Nero’s Christian burning world? In that case it would be better that a husband not touch his wife (as that was the only form of birth control available at the time), but because of porneia, doing away with marriage or spouses altogether would not have been a good idea.  And Paul also made it clear that the tribulation they were suffering was not going to be a good excuse for divorce.

[16] Unqualified statement of absolute equality of the sexes

[17] Divorce is permitted in these cases. If a sister or a brother is not under bondage, then there is no hindrance to marrying again if they so choose.

[18] The Corinthian Church met in the local Synagogue, which was likely filled with believing Jews married to un-believing Jews. This was likely a widespread dilemma within the early church. 

[19] As it is impossible for a circumcised man to become uncircumcised, we know that Paul is speaking generically to both women and men. The reference, here, is to Judaism. He was telling Jews that they did not have to become Gentiles to be saved.

[20] Paul was telling Gentiles that they did not have to become Jews to be saved. In the Body of Christ there is no Jew or Gentile, hence, one is not superior/inferior to the other, hence, the apostle told the non-Jewish believers, “If you are not Jewish, do not attempt to become Jewish.” He repeated this a few verses down. 

[21] Paul has not changed the subject. He has only made a slight detour. He is still dealing with marriage and he gets back to it shortly. But he takes the opportunity to extrapolate the marriage question—which must have been one of changing marital status, due to the present distress attached to becoming a Christian in those perilous times—into other areas of life. Is Paul saying no changes can be made in a person’s life once they come to Christ? No, but he is warning against unnecessary, major life changes simply because one has become a Christian. He is not condoning slavery, as some accuse him of. The penalty could be death by crucifixion for runaway slaves—criminals of all sorts were crucified. Their masters could kill them, or they could face the coliseum to be torn apart by beasts. The Romans had a variety of cruel deaths to choose from. In light of the brutal consequences, it is unlikely that Paul would encourage born-again slaves to run away.
[22] Again, the apostle stresses that the following advice, is his opinion.

[23] The entire chapter of 1 Corinthians seven, must be interpreted within the context of the “present distress,” which was the driving force that brought questions about marriage, reproduction, and divorce to the forefront. 

[24] Paul advises against marriage only, at this particular time.

[25] Brethren is a gender-neutral word including both sisters and brothers in the Lord.

[26] Marital celibacy? Do not seek to bring children into the world, at this time?

[27] Here, Paul makes a clear statement about his belief in the imminent appearance of Christ, based on his revelation of the resurrection and catching up (commonly known as the rapture) 1 Thessalonians 4:15-18 15: For this we say unto you by the word of the Lord that we which are alive and remain unto the coming of the Lord shall not prevent them which are asleep 16: For the Lord himself shall descend from heaven with a shout with the voice of the archangel and with the trump of God and the dead in Christ shall rise first 17: Then we which are alive and remain shall be caught up together with them in the clouds to meet the Lord in the air and so shall we ever be with the Lord 18: Wherefore comfort one another with these words). His comments underscore his belief that not only was life not going on as usual, but that it never would again, so he advises Christians on attitudes and behavior appropriate for the last days. This is reminiscent of the Lord God’s word to Baruch Jeremiah 45: 2: Thus saith the LORD the God of Israel unto thee O Baruch 3: Thou didst say Woe is me now for the LORD hath added grief to my sorrow I fainted in my sighing and I find no rest 4: Thus shalt thou say unto him The LORD saith thus Behold that which I have built will I break down and that which I have planted I will pluck up even this whole land 5: And seekest thou great things for thyself seek them not for behold I will bring evil upon all flesh saith the LORD but thy life will I give unto thee for a prey in all places whither thou goest
 
[28] Verses :32-34 are a clear statement of equality of the sexes in both essence and function. If this was the only passage in scripture that underscores the essential and functional equality of the sexes, it would be enough, but it isn’t. There are many more. Yet, if it was, it would not change the fact that this one passage, alone, refutes the misogynistic, uniquely complementarian, claim that women and men are equal in essence only, but not in function.

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